So, I was all excited about being able to sleep in today and get some rest, but staying up until 1:30 AM (because we had a friend over until after midnight and then I stayed up to watch an episode of "Intervention") then getting woken up at 7:00 to move the car = getting less sleep than on the days I wake up at 5:00. I tried going back to sleep but I'm not really good at that. I feel groggy.
The episode of intervention annoyed the crap out of me. It was about a guy who was addicted to heroin. He was born in India, and abandoned on the streets of Calcutta when he was very little, and adopted by this Christian white family in the United States when he was three. They showed this home video of the parents going to pick him up and they were all "God told us we would be receiving a little boy from India in about 5 years and now we're going to get him!". In addition to their adopted son they also had five, perfect blonde biological children. And they made a naive mistake that I've seen happen with other families with adoption and particularly international adoption. They just assumed that if you rescue this child from the streets, and give them everything they need, they'll grow up to be happy and well adjusted and grateful. Also, they'll love Jesus since Jesus told the parents to adopt from India. You could tell from the blank looks on their faces during the interviews that they had absolutely no concept of their son/brother experiencing a lot of emotional pain over being abandoned by his birth family, of never knowing who his parents or siblings are. They had no concept of what it felt like to be the only brown face in a family of white faces.
The overwhelming feeling was that, "We gave him everything he needed and we loved him for who he is so what on earth is wrong with him?". The dad was the worst. He refused to see his problems as an illness and just thought he was being sinful and had no respect for authority.
And it's not that the guy hated his family. He loved them very much but undertandably felt distanced from them because of the "But we gave you Jesus and TV!" attitude. My heart just broke for that guy. It just amazed me that in all those years, it never occurred to that family to seek outside professional help (not the church) or pick up a book on adopted children and try to learn something about identity and abandonment issues.
Anyway...end rant about The Television and People I Do Not Know.
The episode of intervention annoyed the crap out of me. It was about a guy who was addicted to heroin. He was born in India, and abandoned on the streets of Calcutta when he was very little, and adopted by this Christian white family in the United States when he was three. They showed this home video of the parents going to pick him up and they were all "God told us we would be receiving a little boy from India in about 5 years and now we're going to get him!". In addition to their adopted son they also had five, perfect blonde biological children. And they made a naive mistake that I've seen happen with other families with adoption and particularly international adoption. They just assumed that if you rescue this child from the streets, and give them everything they need, they'll grow up to be happy and well adjusted and grateful. Also, they'll love Jesus since Jesus told the parents to adopt from India. You could tell from the blank looks on their faces during the interviews that they had absolutely no concept of their son/brother experiencing a lot of emotional pain over being abandoned by his birth family, of never knowing who his parents or siblings are. They had no concept of what it felt like to be the only brown face in a family of white faces.
The overwhelming feeling was that, "We gave him everything he needed and we loved him for who he is so what on earth is wrong with him?". The dad was the worst. He refused to see his problems as an illness and just thought he was being sinful and had no respect for authority.
And it's not that the guy hated his family. He loved them very much but undertandably felt distanced from them because of the "But we gave you Jesus and TV!" attitude. My heart just broke for that guy. It just amazed me that in all those years, it never occurred to that family to seek outside professional help (not the church) or pick up a book on adopted children and try to learn something about identity and abandonment issues.
Anyway...end rant about The Television and People I Do Not Know.


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